Are You Hip to This?
What the Experts Say
Bullying is NOT “just part of growing up.”
Bullying can have harmful effects on everyone involved, even people who may feel like they are not involved.
There is a difference between bullying and conflict.
Bullying will pass the ACID test.
While you may not get to a solution in a conflict, one individual does not use their power to deny the rights of or harm another individual.
We said that what separates bullying behavior from other types of aggressive behavior is an imbalance of power, but what does that mean? When there is an imbalance of power, one person has more power than another to achieve goals and approval from a group. Sometimes this is real and comes from an actual advantage, like size, and sometimes it is just perceived. There are some imbalances of power that are natural - for example, a teacher and a student or a parent and a child. What makes bullying different is the person with more power uses their real or perceived power to hurt someone else.
When there is an imbalance of power one person has more power, to achieve goals and approval from a group than another person. Sometimes this is real and comes from an actual advantage, like size, and sometimes it is just perceived.
A power imbalance can exist between what is considered the “norm” and other racial or cultural groups, sexual minorities, those who are economically disadvantaged, or those with disabilities.
When one person is physically larger or stronger than another person.
When one person is in a dominant role, more popular among peers, or is with a larger group of people than another person.
Knowing another person's vulnerability
When one person knows what makes another person feel vulnerable, such as obesity, stuttering, learning difficulties, sexual orientation, or family background, and uses that knowledge to hurt that person.
Bullying has harmful long term effects on the bully, the target, and the bystanders.
The Long Term Effects on the Bully
The Long Term Effects on the Target
The Long Term Effects on the Bystander